13 May Top Differences on how the Chinese and Westerners View Marriage 1. Age 30 being too old for marriage Seems with Chinese people, once a woman reaches the age of 30 and is still unmarried, this is quite an issue; she is deemed as being too old. This is the opposite with Westerners; women usually get married a little later in life. In fact age 30 is precisely the right time to probably get married, even women in their forties still get married for the first time. 2. Insisting that a girl must be a virgin It is still the norm with Chinese people that a young girl must be a virgin when she gets married, so much that girls are expected to save themselves for marriage even if they are in the dating stages of their life. Young girls are also expected to come from good families and decent backgrounds. It is surprising though that such emphasis does not seem so obvious when it comes to Chinese guys and men. In the west however, such ideas are almost nonexistent, it is quite rare for any male to expect a girl he will marry to still be a virgin. 3. Guys owning houses before marriage This is an undeniable trend, when Chinese girls enter into marriage with a Chinese man; they expect the guy to already own a house, a car and have comfortable savings in the bank. In the Westerner’s eyes, this is commonly seen as “gold digging”; for foreigners coming from Western countries, upon marriage, a man and woman can accumulate wealth together – the house, car and savings must be done together as a couple. 4. Reluctance to date single mothers Plenty of men in China have a reluctance to date single mothers, especially single mothers who have sons; the general idea is for couples to start their own families and raise their own children. In the west, the general lifestyle accommodates half siblings and step children, single mothers can date as they please. 5. Too much attention to physical appearance Perhaps this is a point that might actually apply to most males about being attracted to physically beautiful women, however, opinions of many foreigners seem to believe that Chinese men really do exceed foreign men about how much attention they pay to physical appearance – it is an important factor for Chinese men. 6. Chinese girls meaning the opposite of what they say It has been suggested that a Chinese girls might say “I hate you” when in fact she actually means I love you, leaving some of our Western friends perplexed as they are used to girls being very direct; telling the other person what you want exactly. In your spare time, you are free to discus such interesting points with the Mandarin house Chinese team that will be guiding you.